Comparing yourself to others is really common because we’ve got access to other people’s lives via social media. And if we’re not careful, we can fall into the trap of comparing where we are to where somebody else is and feeling envious or jealous. You might question your ability, your value.
Tip #1 – Spot yourself comparing as it’s happening
What you might find is that you start seeing it after the event. That’s fine, but let’s start raising that self-awareness. After some time you may be able to spot that you are comparing as it happens.
Tip #2 – Write a list of all the things that you find that you are envious of
Write a list of the things that you wish that you had that this person is experiencing. That will give you a shopping list. You can add that to your vision board or your goal list and you can start working towards it yourself.
Tip #3 – Thank them for showing you the way
Now, this might be a little bit of a tricky one. You don’t have to phone them up and thank them. But in your head you can thank them and think, I’m so pleased that somebody showing me that I can have all those things. I can achieve those things because you’re actually doing it and somebody always has to go first.
Change your mindset and reframe it from feeling envious to feeling grateful.
Tip #4 – Focus on service
You’re going first for other people. You’re ahead of other people and they’ll be looking at you, whether you realize it or not, and thinking, look at them they’re doing so well and I want to do well.
So focus on service, on giving back, on serving your clients, on serving your team and the people around you.
Focus on how other people can get there too, so you’re helping other people along the way.
Those are my tips for how to stop comparing yourself to others. I would love to see your comments. So let me know what your experiences are and if you’ve got any tips that you’d like to share about how you’ve got over comparing yourself to other people then we’d love to hear from you.