Barbara Nixon
Success and Leadership Coaching for Business Leaders
Years ago I read an article about a CEO who really struggled to get home and have dinner with her family.
Every evening they planned it and she was late or MIA and everyday it led to dissapointment, rows and guilt.
She tried and tried but it just didn’t work.
Then one day she realised that she was letting a *should* control her life.
A *should* that came from old thinking that dinner *should* be family time.
It was what her parents did, and their parents before them and now it was her turn.
But her parents and grandparents had different lives to her, and for them it worked.
None of them were the CEO of a company for a start!!
It was time to let go of the *should* and evolve.
Once she’d decided she had to let it go she had a brainwave.
Instead of dinner being family time. Why not breakfast?
Each morning they all sat down and ate together before the day started, and it just worked… for them!
Evolution in practice!!
This is the thing… so often I hear people tell me that they feel guilty for doing certain things but when it comes down to it, it’s just an old *should* that has been passed down that is now out of date.
The way I look at this is… my mum grew up in war torn Poland and had a ration book. She had one for a lot of her childhood… does that mean I need to have one?
Nope!
It’s not relevant for my life… and *should’s* or old beliefs are pretty much the same.
And the best thing is…We get to choose what works for us, and what doesn’t.
We can let them go and give ourselves permission to evolve.
What *should’s* have you let go of that have been like a weight off your shoulders?