Month: April 2021

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    5 ways to get moving when you feel stuck

    You have big goals and dreams, and a whisper deep down inside that’s telling you that you’re here for more.

    You can’t stop thinking about it. You write lists about it. You talk about it. You know that this is what you’re meant to be doing…but for some reason unbeknown to you, you feel completely stuck and can’t seem to take action.

    To say that you’re frustrated is an understatement. But all you seem to do is go round and round in circles. You feel overwhelmed, and confused. You lack clarity and you really don’t know what to do to get yourself moving in the right direction.

    If this is you, and you feel like you’ve fallen into the swamp of forgotten dreams, you’re not alone! So, how do you get moving in the right direction and get momentum?

    Get clear on your big goal and then scale it right down.

    Even though you might have an amazingly awesome goal, it might also scare the pants off you. Big goals have a habit of doing that. Yes, there’s the saying that ‘if your goal doesn’t scare you it’s not big enough’ but if it’s scaring you to the point where you’re not doing anything chances are you need to stop focusing on it as much.

    Although I’m a huge fan of having a shiny target to aim for, sometimes it can feel so big that it feels unachievable and you move from being excited about your goal to wondering how you’re going to do it, to ‘I can’t do that’ in 3 short seconds.

    So if this is the case it’s time to scale it right down and focus on what you need to do right now just to get you moving. You’re looking for the smallest of steps here.

    One of the things that I say a lot is ‘You don’t climb a mountain in one leap, all the tiny steps all add up’ and this is so true. So focus on the next small step that you can take, and then once you’ve done that, move onto the next small step. These small steps really do add up.

    Decide who it impacts

    Ask yourself, who else benefits when you achieve your goal? Is it your family and children? Maybe you can buy more stuff, move house or retire your other half from their full time job?

    Or maybe it’s further afield and your goal will help your clients, and their families and so on.

    This is what I call the ripple effect, and when you really think about this it can be a huge motivator, as all of a sudden your goal isn’t just about you…it’s got a much wider reach which spurs you into action.

    Have a good think…what’s the ripple effect of your goal?

    Decide what tasks you need to do consistently to get you where you want to be

    Consistency really is King (or Queen!)

    Doing things on a consistent basis creates momentum.

    All of a sudden you gather pace by doing something over and over again. You become known for your thing, and opportunities start to come your way.

    All it takes is making a decision to do something over and over again.

    Decide what you want to be celebrating at the end of the month and work towards that

    If you’re feeling in stuck mode having so many tasks to do can feel overwhelming, especially if you’re wondering whether it’s the right move for you or not. Therefore, pick ONE MINI MONTHLY GOAL that you’re going to go for. This could be anything, but the rule of thumb is that this is what you’re aiming for this month. This not only really focuses the mind, but takes you out of stuck and into ACTION.

    Take action every single day without fail

    Here’s the biggie – you have to take action every single day. Choose your goal over your fears and keep moving forwards. This alone will help you big time!!

    If you’re ready to take that next step click here to download your 7 ways you’re blocking your own success (and what to do about it) workbook.

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    5 Signs you’re blocking your own success

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    Let me ask you a question – how do you know if you’re blocking your own success?

    I get asked this question a lot.

    In fact, I got asked it only the other day when I was running a workshop for an amazing group of business owners, and to be honest it’s a really good question.

    Back when I first started my Coaching Business back in 2015 I used to wonder about this too. For me it was like I’d hit some kind of invisible ceiling and I’ve heard this many times with the hundreds of people that I’ve worked with since then.

    And even though they know that they’re getting in their own way, they just can’t seem to put their finger on what is going on…just that it feels like trying to drive a car with your foot firmly on the brake pedal.

    So, if this is you – here are 5 signs that you’re blocking your own success.

    You’re resisting taking the step that you know will make a difference.

    It doesn’t matter what your goal is – whether it’s to grow your business or progress your career, if you’re not taking that next step that you know will move the needle for you, something is going on.

    You might have had this step on your to do list for a while.

    You might talk about it all the time.

    You might think about it a lot

    You might even keep writing it on your to do list…

    But somehow you never seem to get round to do it, and it appears on your list again for the gazillionth time the next day.

    If you know exactly what I’m talking about, and can even name the ‘task’ you’re avoiding, chances are you’re getting in your own way.

    You have excuses for not doing something you actually really want to do

    So, let’s pretend that you get an amazing opportunity. Maybe it’s to appear on your favourite podcast. Maybe it’s to work with your ideal client or get your dream job, and instead of jumping straight in feet first you find yourself saying something like…

    “I haven’t got the time right now”

    “I’m not ready”

    “I’m not good enough”

    “I need to do X first”

    “I’m too [fill in your own blank here eg too old, too young, not enough experience]”

    “I’ve got too much on right now”

    “I’ll do it next time”

    And before you know it this amazing opportunity has floated away and you’re left secretly kicking yourself. The thing is excuses can feel a lot like reasons, apart from one thing…we always know if we’re just avoiding something, and if that’s the case…Hello Success Block!

    You keep listening to your inner critic

    We all have that voice in our heads that keeps showing up when we least need it to that says all sorts of super helpful things (NOT) like:

    “You’re not good enough”

    “You’re going to fail”

    “You’re going to get found out any second!”

    But that doesn’t mean that we have to give it unnecessary air time and actually listen. Just because it’s your thought, doesn’t mean it’s true!

    You can’t seem to get the results you really want.

    You’ve got big dreams and goals but you can’t seem to bring them to fruition. Instead, you feel like you’re taking one step forwards and one back. Like you’re going round in circles or stuck in your own version of Groundhog Day, and it doesn’t matter how hard you try, or how many books you read nothing seems to get you to where you want to be. If you can relate, chances are that you’re holding yourself back in some way. Check out this blue print to see what yours is.

    You can FEEL it!

    This is a big one right here. Most of the time, we can feel it. We can feel a whisper somewhere deep down inside that you’re resisting. You know that you’re more than capable of more and you know you want it, and you get frustrated with yourself because it always feels just out of reach.

    If this is you and you’re ready for more download your free workbook 7 ways you’re blocking your own success and what to do about it by clicking here

    Hope to see you there

    Barbara

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