Earlier this week I was guiding the members of The Smash Your Own Ceiling Collective through a workshop all about fear of success.
This block can bring up all sorts of things like:
What if I can’t sustain it?
What if I get so busy that I never watch Netflix or hang out with the kids again?
What if I fail or do something wrong?
What if I burn out?
What if I decide I don’t like it?
What if everyone wants my money?
What if my friends desert me for being too successful?
All of which can cause you to put your foot firmly on the brake pedal, even though you’re still trying to push on.
So, what do you do if this is going on for you?
- Shine a light on what about success worries you
Just being aware of what scares you makes a massive difference, because you can start to see it for what it is.
Just a fear.
This isn’t an excuse to judge yourself or think that success isn’t for you, but an opportunity to think differently about it.
2. Surround yourself with cheerleaders
Who you surround yourself really matters. If you surround yourself with people on a similar journey who are all supportive and cheering you on every step of the way, and most of all understand how you feel, it becomes so much easier (and a lot more fun too.)
3. Celebrate every step
This is such a simple thing to do, but works an absolute treat. By taking the time to write down the things that you’re proud of that day, the things you’ve achieved and the things that have gone well, you’re telling yourself that it’s these things that matter and not the things that have gone wrong. Plus it’s a great way to raise your frequency and to log your progress.
4. Remember it’s all a matter of choice
This is probably the most important of all.
To remember that you get to choose.
You get to choose what success looks like for you
You get to choose how you’ll behave
You get to choose who you get to spend time with
You get to choose what everything looks like.
This doesn’t have to follow old paradigms and beliefs or things that have happened in the past. Instead, you get to create the success in the way you want to.
You get to step up…and step INTO your new version of you that will THRIVE and not just survive in your version of success, and to choose to be excited rather than afraid.