Today we’re going to be looking at something that so many people struggle with, and that is saying no.
Now, if this is you, you are absolutely not alone…so many people struggle with this one because we’re conditioned to help people. It might be because we’re brought up to help other people, even though it might have a negative effect on ourselves and you might find yourself in a position where you’re wondering why you ever agreed to help in the first place because it’s taking a lot longer than you thought.
So, rather than get yourself in this position it’s time to look at how to say no with confidence.
One good way is to be super clear on the things that you want to achieve, and your goals and anything that doesn’t fit into this isn’t going to be a good use of your time.
So, have a think about what you really want to achieve in the next couple of months and the actions that you need to take to achieve them.
Then when someone asks you to do something see whether it’s aligned with your goals in which case you can easily say no.
‘I’d love to help you, but unfortunately I’m working on something else right now, so I can’t fit it in.’
By having those goals, and nailing down the actions, it gives you a reason to say no which helps you to say no with confidence.
It may be that you get asked around the office to do things, but you haven’t got time. You can also use the same process.
‘I’d love to be able to help but unfortunately I’m working on something else at the minute and I don’t have time right now.’
Saying no is something that get’s a lot better with practice, so give this a go and start using that muscle.
Let me know how you get on, and I’ll see you tomorrow.